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Are You a Destructive Responder?

Getting Past “86”: A Dozen Ways to Unleash Your Parenting Grace and Keep Life Under Control

When You Deserve the Apology: 3 Ways to Get a Do-Over

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When you have either lots of time to get something

When you have either lots of time to get something done, or it seems like an easy task, your motivation will be low. Here are three ways that can help manage procrastination.
1. Make an easier task more challenging by shrinking the time available.
2. Make the last minute happen sooner by scheduling the time to do the task. Smaller Sooner, Larger Later!!
3. When you have a very challenging task, break it up into smaller parts that are less difficult. Then schedule each of them to make the last minute happen sooner.

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Researchers have found that people use four key st

Researchers have found that people use four key styles of responding to the good news of another person. Do you know yours?

Imagine that your child has just told you they've been picked to be the soloist in the online choir. That’s epic! Think about how you could respond to them:

“That’s great.” (It’s polite but ends the conversation. Game over.)

“You’ll be sorry.” (Points out why the good news might be bad. Makes you sound critical.)

“I have got to get your brother dressed.” (Shows you are off-topic. Makes you seem distracted and others-interested.)

“Tell me more.” (Keeps the conversation going! Lets the person know you are interested!)

But what about challenges, you ask? One way to show others that you care is using that same “Tell Me More” response. In my experience, it also works to help people talk about a challenge as well as a win. When you can listen to someone without judgment, and with compassionate curiosity (even when you may want to swoop in and save them!), you help to facilitate a conversation rather than a potentially impulsive or angry solution.

Turning down anger and worry this way has a few benefits.

Your child will know you are listening to them and willing to take the time to hear more.
Your child may be able, with your help, to sort through their own feelings and solutions.
You can collect more information about the context of your child’s challenge and help them to discover their own strengths to resolve conflicts and move ahead.

You can use “Tell Me More” with anyone, and both of you can gain relationship benefits and a more resilient and expansive mindset. How’s that working for you? Let me know.
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“I just wanted to reach out and say thank you so

“I just wanted to reach out and say thank you so much for all you did to help our son navigate his way through remote learning. He was really struggling, as were we. It was pretty horrible all around.

But everything you said was true; we couldn’t take the emotion out of it, and were therefore terribly ineffective at getting him to where he needed to be. You held him accountable. You empowered him. Once he started working with you, he started asking for help from his teachers, advisors and specialists. He advocated for himself. It was amazing to see.

We just received his report card today, and every one of his teachers noted a significant improvement in his effort, attendance, and work. He (and we) couldn’t have done it without you.”

Of course, no good comes from a habit that you do

Of course, no good comes from a habit that you do not act on. Do you have a strategy for times when you lack the motivation to work on change? Procrastination, which you probably think is a productivity problem, can be another way to help get you motivated. That’s because it helps you use the anxiety of the last minute to get going. Everyone has a different sweet spot for this. You may feel a bit nervous as a deadline approaches, or you may feel absolute panic. Use procrastination for good by managing time and difficulty.

Your kids might be spending the money you wish cou

Your kids might be spending the money you wish could go to your own family vacation. But if you think telling them about your sacrifices will make them swell with gratitude and become miraculously cured of their pushback, you are headed for the gale-force winds and high seas of disappointment.

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Henry says you don't need to clean out a closet to spark joy! #learnandflourish #learngrowflourish

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